How naivety can support your judgments?

Inspired by DARK

By: Hana Khateeb

Once I watched a German series called DARK. It was a very complicated series, you really need to pay attention every second. But what they kept repeating almost each season is that: “A human lives three lives. The first ends with the loss of naivety, the second with the loss of innocence and the third with the loss of life itself. It is inevitable that we will go through all three stages.”

I found it very mind opening. Often made me think about the first time I lost my first life. The naivety of most people slowly wears off through the years. No matter whether you learned something from it or not, it is like an endless circle that you will never escape.

Naivety, in my opinion, is similar to hope, you can’t really lose it. You just have to keep restoring it. Losing hope only becomes apparent to people when they begin to consider quitting. Which in this case one life will be gone for good.

But living without naivety is living without the fear factor in your life. In order to feel it you need to try new things, start new something, open a door of new opportunities, which in this case you learn through the mistakes you made along the way. And that is what builds up something called “Courage”.

Of course you can’t do all of that without naivety, I’m not saying that. However, naivety and courage are two sides of the same coin. You will find them each time you lose or win.

Same as everything in life. You need to face the good and the bad to become someone new. Each time a lesson is learned and a new life is being restored. See it as a game you’re playing and each time you get one step ahead you either lose or win a life.

Fun fact, I never remembered when was the first time I lost my naivety. Despite that, I still have it somewhere when I open up to someone or something new. My chances of losing it are very slim. I still get surprised by the fact that people can stab me in the back.

Nevertheless, I choose my battles. It all depends on what level people are in my life. Some people get to be leveled up and some just lose me as a member in their lives. It all comes down to your peace of mind.

You will always learn a lesson, no matter how naive you were or how brave you were. Even if it was “hope” we are talking about, you will also learn a lesson that will give you growth each time you make a decision. And that my friends is not an easy task. You need to learn how to let go.

What I learned throughout the years is “I’ll always reserve my definitive judgment till the end”. No matter what kind of lessons I learned it will always be a good thing that I learned one. Some people don’t see the importance of the matter but trust me on that. IT IS IMPORTANT.